Meditation Can Help You On A First Date - Here’s How!
I got a text recently from a client I adore who said; “I literally did your breathe in self confidence, exhale doubt thing from the self confidence medi as I walked to meet him”.
Meditation for epic first dates!? Yes, please. Nobody likes a first date. If you’re someone who does, please let us know because I think we would all love to hear your secret. Dates can be nerve racking, anxiety inducing and leave you feeling overwhelmed & flustered. All normal reactions to the potential of meeting your person... but there must be an easier way, right?
The good news is that meditation can make your experience exponentially better. This doesn’t only apply to first dates, but for any engagement that requires you to show up as your best, most vibrant, confident self.
The practice of meditation can be a huge help in cultivating a healthy relationship with ourselves and expanding our perceived level of self-worth. When we are secure with who we are, we are better able to show up exactly as we are with all the beautiful things we have to offer. There is something about a genuinely self-confident person that creates a magnetic force field around them. When you feel secure, you glow from the inside out and people are naturally drawn to you. Not only that, but you feel good about yourself and grounded in who you are.
Here are 3 meditation techniques that can help you keep your cool on a first date...
#1 - Do this Mini Meditation
Just like my beautiful client did, you can try out this simple self-guided meditation. It goes like this; start to breathe in & out through your nose. Relax your body, soften your jaw, feel your breathing get a little bit deeper. As you inhale, picture yourself breathing in self-confidence. As you exhale, release self-doubt. Continue like this...inhaling self-confidence, exhaling self-doubt for as long as you need. Set your timer anywhere between 5 - 20 minutes as you repeat this technique. The nice thing about this meditation is that you don’t necessarily need to be sitting still. You can do it while driving, walking, or taking public transportation. Perfect for a little pre date pick-me-up!
#2 - Use Affirmation
Affirmation is a popular technique used in meditation in which we repeat a meaningful word or phrase over and over again in our minds. Leading up to your first date, build confidence by using affirmations that get you in the energy of feeling your best. Examples include; “I am desirable. I am secure. I am worthy. I am open to the possibility”. When we repeat words of affirmation to ourselves, we are forming new neural pathways and reprogramming our subconscious brain to create a healthier, kinder internal landscape.
#3 - Practice the art of surrender
Here’s the thing; if it happens, it happens. If it doesn’t, it doesn’t. What's meant to be will be and no amount of force or control can change that. When we move into a meditative state, there is a subtle shift that happens, leaving room for surrender and trust. We learn to lean into our feelings, be present & because of it, we’re genuinely cool with the way things turn out. When you practice the art of surrender, you can be fully present with the person you’re with, as opposed to jumping ten steps into the future. Releasing expectations and just going with the flow can make a world of difference. The next time you go on a date, remind yourself to be fully present with the person you’re with.
So go ahead and try these techniques out the next time you go on a first date. I hope they help! One more thing… you are SO worthy, beautiful.
And I know, I know you want to hear how my client's date went...client confidentiality prevents me from spilling the tea BUT safe to say a 2nd date is in the books.